“So is it over?
Is this really it?
You’ve given up so easily.
I thought you loved me more than this.”
The Lyrics to Adele’s song “Take it all” both challenge and inspire me. And sometimes they make me melancholy, too. I think I’m genetically incapable of giving up easily.
Sometimes, when you give up, what you give up shows you a perfect portrait of what you value.
It’s not always easy. I don’t always enjoy the picture I see. But it’s good to see it nonetheless.
If you give up something that brings you joy, so that someone else can have more joy, it shows you value that other person’s happiness above yours. It shows you value that other person more than yourself. It’s a portrait of love.
When you give up on your present happiness, it shows you value the future more than today. And it shows you’re prepared to pay the price of future joy – which is often present misery.
Finance people call this “delayed gratification”. It’s the idea behind all investment.
You pay a price today, to reap a reward in the future.
It’s the reason why people are prepared to pay more on their mortgage than it would cost to rent. They see the value in the future of ownership, wealth and a retirement free of housing costs.
What are you giving up today so that you (or someone you love) can have a better tomorrow?